Stopping the cry inside you

Stopping the Cry Inside You


Blessed (fortunate) is the man whom You discipline and instruct, O Lord and teach out of Your law, that You may give him power to keep himself calm in the days of adversity, until the pit of corruption is dug for the wicked.” Psalm 94:12-13 Amp.


I’ve heard people say that don’t believe in God simply because of all the evil in the world happening to innocent people. Sometimes this comes from the mouths of people who once believed but have suffered great disappointment or tragic loss. I don’t mean to diminish the pain of someone’s suffering but you can be angry at God, accuse Him, or refuse to serve Him, but you can’t decide He no longer exists. To deny He exists doesn’t make God leave the room. IT only deadens your awareness of Him and your need for Him in daily life.

It’s funny to me when I encounter someone who denies God exists it is like they get angry at me for believing in Him or trying to tell them about Him. How could you get angry over someone who is not real?

We were all born as babies who cry. Doctors say crying is the physical act that clears the lungs at birth and help breathing. That may be the physical reason but what is the psychological reason? What motivates him to cry? Why not just breath or gulp in air?

Maybe the answer to why a baby cries van be best solved by identifying what causes the baby to stop crying. Watch a crying newborn as the mother cuddles him, speaks softly, make him feel secure. The result is universal around the world!

God created us to need love, acceptance, value and security.

Why did God create humans with these needs?

Because He intends to be the One to meet those needs.

In a way the baby’s cry for love will continue throughout life.

  • In teenage years they look for friends who accept them. This cry for acceptance may take on the form of wearing weird clothes or strange hairdo’s. The point is humans have a tendency to do whatever it takes to stop the crying on the inside for love, acceptance, to be valued, and security.

  • Young adult years people may seek love through promiscuous life, drugs, or whatever.

The cry never stops until we discover that only God can meet these needs. The danger for us is we may know this but then try to fill this need in us with other things or ways instead of just a relationship with God. Substitutes for God – idols, people, money, career, busyness, fame, recognition, whatever makes us feel loved, secure, valued, or accepted.

God loves the fact He has given us free will and choice. Love that does not have a choice is not love. In the garden of Eden there were 2 trees in the middle. Man had a choice to believe and trust God or not.

When man made the decision to choose other things instead of trusting in God chaos came into our world. Sin, sickness, lack, disappointment, loss, criticism, betrayal, Cain murdered his own brother, and from there things got worse. The cry of the human heart got louder! We are missing something or missing someone!

Not until chapter 4 of Genesis

Then men began to call (cry out) upon the name of the Lord.” Gen. 4:26


I don’t agree with people who say God sends bad things into our life to make us turn back to Him. What about Job? Job is about holding to our faith in a good God in the midst of our trials that we don’t understand.

What is important is not that you understand but that you trust God when you don’t understand. Problems reduce life to the most basic elements. What is most important here! Don’t make the mistake that if God really loved you He would deliver you out of a painful situation. God did not deliver Paul or other disciples from some painful situations because He had an ultimate purpose in mind.

God will not take away pain if it serves a greater purpose in your life. Instead He will walk the path of pain with you and comfort you with His Presence.


Isn’t the ultimate aim of life to know God experientially and by knowing Him we will love and trust Him?

They that know their God shall be strong and do exploits.”

Dan. 11:32


Ill. Daniel loved God and it got him in a lion’s den. What gave him his boldness not to back down from praying to God or die? Boldness is a by-product of knowing God well!

  • 3 Hebrew children threated to burn in fiery furnace. They did not back down. Why? They knew God well.

If I react to the devil, then the devil has influence over me.

  • David knew God well. It wasn’t his first rodeo when he met Goliath. He had been through some lion attack, bear attack in life and knew God. Israel backed down from Goliath because they did not know God well.


“Blessed (fortunate) is the man whom You discipline and instruct, O Lord and teach out of Your law, that You may give him power to keep himself calm in the days of adversity, until the pit of corruption is dug for the wicked.” Psalm 94:12-13 Amp.


When you find yourself going through trials you did not cause or understand why it is happening to you – consider it training to know God is better than you thought. He may be weaning you off some stuff. Training you to stop the panic and learn to stay calm because you are not alone. The greater One lives in you to stop your crying.

Maybe your next exploit is that you remain unusually calm when everyone else panics!

“Surely I have calmed and quieted myself as a weaned child with his mother, my soul is as a weaned child. Let Israel hope in the Lord from henceforth and forever.” Psalm 131:2-3


Weaned – not given what the child wants but what the child needs. A weaned child does not cry when it does not get what it wants.

Ill. Israel’s history was to run to other nations and get them to help them fight their enemies larger than them. God wanted them to hope and trust in Him alone. They had to learn the hard way that was not God’s way. Over and over scripture says, “They cried out to the Lord and He delivered them”. Once they got weaned from looking to man for help they rested in faith in God and saw exploits – miracles. This last verse 3 is a declarative statement – Let Israel hope in God forevermore!


Life is like the wind. Jesus said you don’t know where the wind comes from and where it goes next. We only know our destination is ultimately heaven. Our assignment is to abide in a love/trust/faith relationship while we are on our way to heaven from earth. The enemy may send all kinds of adverse winds that are contrary to our destination. We have to learn to navigate through adverse winds here in this life.

4 adverse winds we must navigate through:


  1. Disappointment – How will you navigate through this?

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but desire realized is a tree of life.” Proverbs 13:12


Dis – out of – appointment.

If your life is not settled on living and abiding in Him then when disappointment comes it can crush you. He is looking for people who will trust Him when disappointment comes and come to Him and He will stop your crying.


  1. Loss – How will you navigate through loss?

God never expects you to deny the pain. He only wants you to deny loss having influence over trusting God through it.

Ill. Know of people today who had loss of loved one and can’t get past it. They are stuck in grief.


This is a moment you must grab as a believer! You may never have an opportunity to offer a sacrifice of praise like this again in your lifetime. Satan will steal it by getting you to focus on you instead of God. Job did this well! He worshipped God in this moment and was able to keep moving. Some of you are still grieving instead of worshipping Almighty God. Grief has become your idol! You go there instead of giving God worship!

  • Will you come to Him and let Him stop your crying?


  1. Criticism – how will you navigate through it?

Some criticism may have some truth in it that we need to hear. Other criticism is just an attempt to distract you and you should ignore it. Ill. One Pastor in town criticized GT and me and Terry when began. I said ignore it. If you jump to defend yourself then God won’t defend you.

Ill. Nehemiah’s critics “Come down to a meeting in the valley of Ono (strength). I can’t come down I have a great work to do.

He refused to get pulled into an argument and criticism that wasn’t worth his time. The enemy is after your energy, time, and you should not give it to him.

You tube clip Ain’t nobody got time for that.


Will you come to Him and let Him stop your crying?




  1. Betrayal – how will you navigate through it?

Only people close to you can betray you. Jesus had it. Paul had it and you will too. Will you come to Him and let Him stop your crying?


Concl: He wants you to trust Him for everything. If he does not stop the pain, then He has a greater purpose for you. Stop the crying inside you. Trust Him through this. You’re gonna be alright if you come to Him.

Blessed (fortunate) is the man whom You discipline and instruct, O Lord and teach out of Your law, that You may give him power to keep himself calm in the days of adversity, until the pit of corruption is dug for the wicked.” Psalm 94:12-13 Amp.


  • We are moving into uncertain days ahead. All these things we experience on earth are just opportunities for promotion into a higher and greater relationship with Him.

  • How big of an anchor would you need for a toy boat in a bathtub?

What about a pool? What about an ocean? Hope in God is to be your anchor. The evidence of it in your life will be obvious to all who watch you navigate through disappointment, criticism, loss or betrayal. You have a deep cry inside you that God wants to cuddle, love, and give you the security to know – you can stop crying now.